Most singles
on a conscious path are relatively happy and content with their lives.
However, many would prefer to be in a loving, spiritual partnership
with a person who enhances their life and offers the opportunity to
thrive in a deep, spiritual love. Finding that kind of love these days
can be a daunting challenge. Incorporating the following tips and
techniques makes manifesting true love easy!
Get
Love: When we love
ourselves unconditionally, we create loving energy within ourselves,
which then draws loving energy in our direction. Remembering that we
are divine energy makes loving ourselves unconditionally come
naturally. We all came from the same divine energy and everything is
made of this energy—including us! In other words, we are “God”
having a human experience, so we must forgive ourselves for making
mistakes, learn the lessons from “being human,” and move on! When
we fully immerse ourselves in unconditional love of self we feel
exuberant, joyful and deeply peaceful.
To help get to
an unconditionally loving place, meditating on self-love and the
connection to our divine energy every morning and evening is helpful.
For example, you might begin by closing your eyes, taking in some deep
breaths, and getting centered and relaxed. Once you are in a
meditative state, feel your connection with divine energy and know
that you are divine. Feel your strong love deep in your soul. Allow
yourself to feel grateful, happy and in love with yourself.
When we
remember and embrace our divinity, we are grounded in self-love and
wholeness. That is, we are not looking to others to “complete” or
validate us. The goal is to feel whole and complete and in love with
self. In this way we may be fully present when interacting with
others.
Get
Clear: Once grounded
in self-love, the next step is to get clear about qualities in an
ideal mate. A great exercise on getting
clear starts with listing all of the qualities of an ideal
partner. Write everything that comes to mind. This might include
integrity, honesty, good sense of humor, active, healthy, intelligent,
great chemistry, wants kids, financially stable, loves to travel, etc.
Next, sort the qualities into “must haves” and “preferences.”
For example, a must have might be “he must be a non-smoker” and a
preference might be, “I prefer her to be attractive.” Remember, we
are all expressions of divine energy in human bodies. The body is
temporary and the real connection is with another’s soul. Chemistry
between two people is a funny thing and “ideal mates” come in all
shapes and sizes. While height, weight, hair and eye color may be
preferences, lifestyle, activity level, spirituality and a base of
common interests are more important.
After creating
a list of must haves and preferences, write a short story describing
an ideal day with your ideal mate. Make it multi-sensory, use present
tense and live it up! Make sure to include feelings and activities you
would like to share. For example: “I
wake up in the morning and feel the tropical breeze on my face, smell
the gardenias in the air and hear the peaceful sound of the ocean
waves off our balcony. I roll over and smile at my husband. His eyes
light up as he hugs me and tells me how much he loves me. He is the
most loving, intelligent, kind, funny, friendly, environmentally
conscious, spiritual man I have ever met. My heart swells with joy and
gratitude, feeling so content and so in love! After our sumptuous
breakfast and morning meditation we go for a swim in the ocean with
the dolphins that frequent the cove where we live …and so on...”
Going through the entire ideal day like this will not only manifest
the ideal mate; it will create the ideal life.
Get
Grateful: To get grateful, read the story out loud and feel your
joy and gratitude, as if it has already happened. Really
turn up those feelings and emotions. Then let it go. Whenever the
story comes to mind, however, imagine the wonderful life you’ve
written about and know that it’s done. Continue to reinforce this
manifestation by feeling grateful throughout the day. Any feelings of
doubt or skepticism will slow down the process or even prevent it, so
be confident and know it’s done.
Get
Busy: The final step in
manifesting your mate is to take action! Jack Canfield, author of Chicken
Soup for the Soul states, “You can’t
just wish for a Cadillac while sitting in your living room and have
one show up in your driveway… So what you have to do is take
action—with faith that it’s going to come true.” The best way
for singles to take action is to put themselves in situations
where they can meet other eligible singles. Joining activity groups,
taking classes and doing the things you enjoy are all good action
steps. Joining an online, spiritual dating site provides a targeted
“pool” of conscious singles and speeds up the manifestation
process. Be open to meeting and dating a variety of people in the
looks department allows for more choices (remember, chemistry is a
funny thing). Being pro-active and initiating contact is also
important, as is listening to one’s intuition and allowing divine
energy to guide one toward making contact.
Always
trust that the divine love you feel for yourself will be reciprocated
by the right person. Just relax, be authentic and enjoy the process.
Continue to feel grateful in advance and watch the sparks fly!
Jill
Crosby
is the owner/founder of www.SpirtualSingles.com, the largest,
exclusively spiritual dating site on the Internet. She also
facilitates Wild Dolphin Swim Retreats for singles. For more
information, visit: www.SpiritualSingles.com.
